Last week I blogged about having an orphaned heart. I’ve been thinking about how much orphan-hearted thinking affects the way I view the world and the people in the world.
There are three basic needs of every human heart: the need to be loved; the need to be accepted; the need to belong. The orphaned heart has a hard time thinking there is anyone who could possibly love and accept them, and a hard time believing that they could possibly belong. Our very souls have been poisoned by orphan-thinking. We cry out to belong but recoil from the opportunity because we can’t take the chance of being hurt again. So as a result, we put up walls to keep everybody at a safe distance and justify our ‘cold love’ as ‘protection’. What really started out as walls to keep our hearts safe ends up becoming a prison that we cannot escape.
So what is a person to do? Friend, you must realize that people are neither the problem, nor the answer. The problem – and the answer – both lie in changing our wrong thinking. I want you to know that you have a Heavenly Father that loves you unconditionally. It is hard for us to really accept that sometimes because our distrust of people translates into a distrust in God. Your idea of what a ‘father’ is may not be a very good one, but God is not a man. He is not like us!
God loves you so much that He sent His Son to die for you and me. God does not give His love based on our performance. It is an unconditional love that is extended to us no matter how much we’ve messed up. We can come to Him with all of our weaknesses and insecurities, and He will accept us just the way we are.
Friend, you are valuable and important to God, and He loves you very, very much. You may be wondering if anybody cares about you…and I am telling you that God does, and that your life matters. You are not alone! Stop listening to the voice in your head that is telling you that nobody loves you and nobody understands you. That is just your orphaned heart crying out for an answer to its pain.
God chose to create you – that is how important you are to Him. He wants to be your Father! Climb up into His lap and let Him be your Father. He will fill that empty void.
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September 16, 2008 at 1:30 pm
First of all I am so glad you decided to try out blogging. I read your post last week on the orphan heart and it touched my soul. It almost seems like this week you have not only expanded on it, but gave us some tools. I must confess I have starting typing comments twice now, and get so emotional that I delete them. Maybe it’s just me, but I seem to notice that the orphan heart comes with a lot of other “baggage” spirits, such as pity, angry, jealousy, doubt, etc. Thank you again for putting this post out here.